Rape
Rape is defined as forced, unwanted sexual intercourse. This can happen to women and men of any age. It is about power and control, not sex. A rapist will use violence, or threaten it, to take control over a person. A rapist will sometimes put drugs in a drink to knock the victim out first, not allowing them to fight back. It doesn’t matter if the rapist is a stranger, or a date, or someone known to the victim or even a family member, rape is a crime. It is very frightening and emotionally traumatic to the victim.
What to Do
Rape should always be reported so the rapist will be brought to justice; however, it isn’t in many instances. You must do whatever is best for yourself. Professional help (medical and or emotional) is needed for most victims in order to start healing, if that is possible. If you are raped, you need to know:
- It wasn’t your fault – no one has the right to force you to have sex against your will. It doesn’t matter what you’re wearing, what you say or how you act, there is no justification for rape.
- There are rape hotlines listed in the telephone book – they can guide you to find medical help if you need it. Take a friend or family member along with you for support and comfort. The national sexual assault hotline number is 800-656-HOPE.
- If you are under 18 and do not want your parents to know about the rape, ask about the laws in your area. Many states treat rape cases confidentially; however, a parent or guardian should be notified.
- You should get medical help – most hospitals have doctors and counselors who can get you through the initial shock; they will listen while you talk. The doctor will check for sexually transmitted diseases (STDs) such as HIV/AIDS and also for internal injuries. Do not change your clothing, shower, douche or wash yourself before you go. This is in case you report the crime there will be evidence to give to the police. The doctor will take samples of hair, skin, nails or bodily fluids from you. The doctor can treat you to prevent an unwanted pregnancy, if you are female.
- You should get help to deal with your feelings – rape not only can physically damage you, it can emotionally damage you also. A victim can feel frightened, angry, confused, ashamed or embarrassed. There are others who get depressed, or feel anxious. You should get professional help quickly to begin the healing process.
- Every rape victim needs to work through their feelings whether it’s with a therapist or support group. This is important in order for you to get on with your life.
If you have been arrested or accused of rape in Santa Ana you need an experienced criminal defense attorney that knows the ins and outs of defending those accused of prostitution.